Life Happens

Mick Jagger once told us "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need." I guess he's right. I'm probably not going to get the promotion I wanted at work, but I am getting something. What, you ask? Well, I'm not totally sure yet. What I do know is that I am appreciated for the work that I do, and that means a lot to me. I also know that a raise was mentioned, which will be helpful since I'm going to have a car payment.

That's right. The stink bug is kaput. She lost compression in the 1st and 2nd cylinders, which means I'd either need a new engine or get mine rebuilt. Either way, she would be out of commission for a LONG time, assuming I could even find a place that would do the work. So instead I tried out Carvana. They brought me a Chevy cruze, and then I realized it had no cruise control. Now, I know that shouldnt be a deal breaker, but I drive 45 miles to work every day, and love to road trip. Ever taken a 16 hr trip with NO cruise control? I have and it's unpleasant. If I'm gonna have a new car, I may as well get one that has what I want, right?? So I'm taking advantage of the 7day guarantee and swapping the Chevy for another Ford. Hopefully it'll last until I can afford a brand new one. Then I'll probably have to go with a hybrid. 

With all the stress of the car and the job, it's been amazing not having to deal with all of this on my own. My fella has been an absolute rock star. He's been so supportive and sweet, and I appreciate him so much. The day after the stink bug died he came over to pick me up and take me to an ATM to get cash for the next tow truck driver. When we got here, I hugged him and it only took about 3 seconds for the tears to start. He just held me and let me cry. I don't know the last time I was able to cry on a man's shoulder... I do know that I fell in love with my fella (from now on I'll be referring to him as J) all over again. I am so grateful to that silly dating app for bringing us together. I'm still not sure who was the coffee and who was the bagel. Lol. 

So I'm no longer totally in the limbo of the unknown. While things didn't quite go the way I had wanted, they also didn't go the way that I had feared. Even though my car is kaput, I found a decent replacement that I could likely afford even without a raise (tho I'd have had to give up on going to Italy next year). Most importantly, I know that when things get me down and I'm not at my very best, I can lean on my man. As someone who has been chastised by multiple friends for being too stubbornly independent (A and J (in korea) are quite alike in some ways) it means a lot to know I can in fact rely on my man. He also knows me very well... I've found the man who "gets" me. I've found the man who understands, accepts, and appreciates me for who I am. It's awesome. 

So that was my week... stressful as hell dealing with towing companies, the auto shop, carvana, my insurance company, work, the junking companies (I tried 3, ended with the one that'll give me the most for it), the towing company that is working for the junking company (they can pick it up on Monday or Tuesday and will give me about an hour of warning to meet them at the shop), and finally carvana again trying to swap the Chevy for the Ford. I'm also going to have to re-register my next new car with the towing company my apt complex uses. So many things to deal with... this past week was one where I didn't want to be an adult anymore.

Not to say it was all bad. A and I got to meet up at Rio Mambo on Thurs and celebrate her bday with her dog! 

I decided to treat myself on Friday, so i got pei Wei on the way home.

I also got a little scissor happy with this shirt 😁 it's been a good one for being lazy around the apt.

I've ended up on a Dracula kick today. First with Van Helsing, then with Dracula with Christopher Lee and now Dracula with British actors from 2006 (Matthew from Downton Abby, Athos from the BBC's 3 musketeers, Marc Warren (always a bad guy) and the chick who plays Lucy is familiar, but I can't place her). I'm going to take J dinner later, and hoping I don't end up in game day traffic, as the Cowboys are playing at home. Football season means crap traffic around the stadium. All in all, I survived last week and things should normalize after all the chaos of the past week. Thank God I'm able to work from home sometimes. Otherwise I'm afraid I'd be fired on top of all the rest of the things. As it is, I think its all going to be alright. 

I hope the rest of you are having a lovely, uneventful autumn. Personally, I'm ready for some boring, run-of-the-mill weeks after all the excitement of the past one. Here's to the end of 2023, and with hope we look toward 2024. 🍻 cheers, friends.