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There were 2 anniversaries we celebrated this past week. The anniversary of our engagement and my grandparents 70th wedding anniversary. That's right. 70th. It's got me feeling a certain way. I've heard the first year of marriage is hard, and my friend C told me that I'd question ALL my life choices this year. Every time someone asks me how marriage is, I say it's weird. And it is. But not necessarily bad. It's just weird because up until now I've just had to deal with my crap, now I have to deal with my crap AND his crap. Then there's my family and his family. And his family is closer than my family, so there's more of that... and I have no past experiences to draw on, so it's just... weird. Then I think of gma and gpa. They must have dealt with a LOT of weird in their 70 years. 

I know J and I will figure this out, and im way too stubborn to give up easily, im still just really scared that im going to lose him somehow. Like, it could be a car wreck or his secret 2nd family, or maybe he just wakes up some day and realizes he doesnt want to be married. Ive never trusted a man this much before and its terrifying. To be clear, I don't really think the last 2 scenarios are likely to happen, but the more fantasy prone voices in my head sometimes get out of control. I'm also still very aware of how socially awkward I can be, so lunches with the in-laws are stressful for me. So yeah, that's a thing. What do you do when the in-laws call you? Hehehe... (bad boys bad boys, whatcha gonna do). Anyway, that's the relationship update. 

I've maintained relationships with friends, but the romantic aspect really does change things. I got to have margaritas with A on Thursday. She's recovering well, the PT is definitely helping. She also had a bday this past week. As far as I'm concerned, she's still 42. Hasn't aged since Europe. My bestie came up this weekend and we went to oktoberfest together. 

Obligatory selfie 😁

Thank God for these 2. They've saved my sanity more times than I can count. 

J and I are gearing up for the first major event that will test us. I'm going on vacation without him. I'm getting ready to join some family in Italy for my aunts bucket list trip to Tuscany and he is staying home. Before you ask, this trip was planned way before we even got together, I told him about it soon after we started dating, and frankly this trip is why we didn't get married on Halloween this year. 😁 we'll, that and I didn't want to live together before we got married. Weird hang up but that's catholicism for you. I'm really looking forward to this trip. I'm going to be off work for 2 weeks. 2 weeks to be away from the foolishness of GRMC, which I'm becoming less and less tolerant of. Well, I can still tolerate it, but its becoming more difficult to keep my damn mouth shut. So I'm definitely due for a vacation. 

We had lunch with his family on Sunday, then went to Spirit Halloween for out yearly pilgrimage. Hehe.

Then we dropped off the niece and went to meet up with the bestie at Anamias. 😁

Such a great evening!

So sorry for the late post, but I accidentally deleted the original blog post, and then was busy most of the rest of the day. 😁 hope you all had a good day as well. Much loves! 

Obsessed with an Ace

I'm seriously taking way too many pix of this cat. And I get him so many things. But so does J. We had to go to Petsmart before our date night on Friday to get him new Temptations treats... human flavor.

Then we went downtown for date night.

It was HOT but fun.

I've been taking lots of pix of the cat on his new blanket.

He's so cute.

And he matches.

Our Halloween kittybug.

New catnip toys

Innocent face.

Anyway, there's a lot going on, but nothing I want to share here at the moment. No offense, but some things don't need to be blogged about, you know? Once things settle and it's a case of what is as opposed to what may be then I'll blog about them. The meds are still causing some issues, work continues to be work, FB tells me it's been a year since the Kia died, so I'm reflecting on how much can change in just 12 short months. Seriously. It's a LOT. J and I continue to navigate married life, which continues to be strange and riddled with possible social booby traps. There's a whole scary "in laws" portion of life that up until now I've never had to navigate... I'm horribly aware of my own social shortcomings and awkwardness. 

I do laugh at work because cultural and age differences are rampant. The older housekeepers and I chat at lunchtime sometimes and I'll sometimes mention when hubbs doesn't like something that I like to cook. One asked "well, what do you cook for him them?" And I told her "he cooks for himself." And she was slightly horrified. Rest assured. He can and does cook for himself. It's fine. We are figuring things out. If I want soup and he doesn't like soup, I make soup, and he makes something else. No big deal. We got this. We are gonna figure this out. Poor man is covering for a coworker next weekend so he won't have a day off again for almost 2 weeks. So I planned a day in for his next day off with pizza and 'salems Lot. New movie on Max. The trailer looks good and creepy. Not totally faithful to the book, but that's OK. I know the book well, and the story could use an update. 😁 

Anyway, that's about all for now. The meds have helped me drop about 15 lbs so far, so that's been nice, not gonna lie. As always, it's a marathon, not a sprint. Happy first day of Autumn, everyone! 

Have a cat on a poison bottle 😁

Pilz-e

Hubby dates are awesome 😁 There's this person in my apt who i can just... do stuff with. Or not... it's wild!

On the neurology front... the topiramate is causing some icky side effects. One of which is nausea. Which sucks because I'm hungry, so I eat, then I'm nauseous the rest of the day. Wednesday for example I had trail mix, and 2 dates with peanut butter and BOOM! Nausea. So once my stomach settled and complained I had some crackers and jerky. Nausea. Later again, babybel and the rest of the jerky. Nausea. By the time I got home I was hungry but couldn't trust that I wouldn't feel nauseous all night so I made a deal with myself. I'd fast the rest of the night and treat myself to a Greek chicken salad the next day. Apparently salad is all I want. I made a wonderful tortilla quiche with mushrooms and green peppers that I had on tues... nausea. This sucks. And yes, it's the med and not a bun in the oven. I'm not down for a geriatric pregnancy, thank you. I also get muscle twitches and tingling in my feet. Sigh. Hoping the side effects go away or I might need to talk to my doc about other things. Losing weight is nice but DAMN. This sucks. I'm now wondering if the nausea was caused by the half of a muffin I also had... maybe it's sugar that triggers the nausea? Guess I better lay off the baked goods for a while.

In other news, I'm struggling with getting people to do stuff at work and it's making me a little crazy. Like... these are things that regulatory agencies are going to look at when they come, and I'm responsible to make sure they are getting done, but I don't have any real oomph to get people to do them. I'm considering a cattle prod, but that seems excessive, tbh... it's just super frustrating. I'm noticing some spillover into my personal life as well because when things at work are driving me nuts and then things at home are less than ideal I definitely need some coping mechanisms to make sure I'm not taking work frustrations out on my friends and family, and vice versa. It's a tight rope we walk sometimes, and we are expected to figure it out alone... no wonder there's a mental health crisis in this country. 

The Halloween kitty likes his Halloween kitty blanket.

Hubbs and I ordered HEB poke bowls and sushi on friday..Friday...

And torchys tacos for dinner 😁

The rest of the weekend was reading, movies, and Sunday we also went to Costco. 

Ace stole my morning cuddles on sunday...

So we got me a Boo to cuddle at Costco! Hubbs got himself a pumpkin, too. We are ready for Halloween!

We also got all the things for the week, so when we got home I prepped my apples (washed and sliced em) and eggs (hard boiled). Once again I'm gonna mostly do salads with tuna this week, except for one day when I have leftover chicken enchiladas. 😁 Lunches are gonna be gooooood. I'm gonna try to add yoga into my cardio routine this week, too. We shall see... depends on how bad the side effects decide to be. Sigh. 

I started reading Stephen Kings Fairy Tale. Its good so far, but weird that the protagonist was born in 1996. Lol... most SK books I've read are his old ones, so it's wild reading one about "that was in April of '13." Hehe. 

Not much else to tell... time marches on and carries me with it. I'm soooooo ready for a vacation. For SERIOUSLY. Much love. 😘😘

Married Life is Weird and Fun

I went away for the weekend. We needed groceries. Hubbs got groceries. He did not ask me what groceries I wanted/needed, so I assumed when I got back from my trip that I would need to go get my groceries. Nope. Hubbs got the groceries I would have gotten (essentially) had I needed to get them. It was wild. The man knew. He knew I didn't have time to meal prep, so my lunches for the week would be bagged salads with tuna and hard boiled eggs. The man KNEW. I also ended up going to a few costcos, so I got us mixed nuts and babybels. Is this teamwork? Is this being partners? 

Here's where it gets slightly off base... I am annoyed with myself for being so predictable. How messed up is that?!? My man knows me so well he got me what I needed for lunch for the week without having to ask and I'm simultaneously grateful to him, kinda freaked out that he pays so much attention, and peeved that I'm not more difficult to figure out. Yep, being a woman is weird. Part of this, though, is that I'm so used to being taken for granted and ignored that it's so unfamiliar to me to be seen and heard and appreciated, that when it happens my internal axis wobbles a bit. Like, this man remembers things i mention in passing and takes them to heart. It's amazing and scary at the same time. He also cleaned the floors, which was amazing. I should have taken a pic of how he arranged the stuffies on the couch... we need to figure out a better stuffie situation... but it was adorable. 

So the week went, and the weekend came. We went to our friends' joint bachelor/Bachelorette party on Saturday and then on Sunday it was business as usual. He went to work, my seester was in town so i went to see her and give her the present I got her, then I got groceries, cleaned the apt, took a shower, and then remembered I had a blog that needed posting. Lol. So here's the pix from the day. 

Secure batty bay

Successful drop off.

Cute puppy

I have but one claw, but beware!

More later cuz I need sleep.

River Weekend

Bestie and I went to the river for the weekend. I missed the hubbster, but he had to work on Sunday and Monday, so he couldn't come down. 

My "I'm outta work in 5 mins face."

Day 1: pedis, shopping, crepes, Mexican food, margaritas, and drinks at home.

Pedis on day 1

crepes

Mexican food!

Day 2 was our belated 40th bday celebration. Halloween shopping, then San Antonio and sushi tasting and then out on the town. We stayed at the house that night. 

I love these things!

Such fun

Pregame at tribute, killing time

Sushi tasting with wine 

Such great sushi, and the wines were good too. We had sparkling then a rose, then a white, then a chianti, and finally a red blend. 

After sushi drinks. Old fashioneds (mine with rum). After this we went to south town in a lyft and met some new friends. We stayed out until around midnight and then called D to come pick us up. We ended up back at the casa.

Sunday we got up, ended up going to a few Costcos, then went and picked up Js car. Then we had lunch at the house and went back to the condo. After a shower and PJs we ended up watching the Fall Guy and being lazy. Tomorrow I'll head home around 2ish 😁 then I'll make sure to ambush the hubbs Monday night when he gets home from work. Heheheh. I hope all of you had a good weekend, too. 

I found Mo a batty bat! 

Much love, all!!! 🥰🥰