I realize that the name, with the pic of my bestie and I makes it look like she and I are the ones getting hitched. Lol... this is not the case... she is still married to D and I'm marrying J. Hehehe
By the way, I think some bridezillas are too maligned. Yes, some take the idea of the "perfect" wedding too far and make outlandish demands, and are rightly maligned. However, I've felt my 'bridezilla' meter swing a little too far at times, and now I understand more of why all the stress sometimes boils over. We have all these things that need done: venue, reception, food, drink, hair, makeup, accommodations, invites, registry, and so on and so forth. We have to decide on every detail, big or small, then there's the questions and opinions that come from all different directions. Some are legit, some not so much. And EVERYONE has an opinion, and they ALL want to tell you what THEY think. As a recovering people pleaser, it's exhausting. I'm rapidly reaching a place called 'decision fatigue.' I'm so, so tired of deciding things that from now until after the honeymoon, I'm done. I've made all the decisions I intend to make. I've put down all the deposits, I've noted when the remainders are due, I've done all I can to ensure a pleasant day will be had by all, and that's it. Any questions or opinions are now to be routed thru one of the ladies of power, my fiancé, or my good friend A. I think we have arrived at a good mix of traditional and non-traditional events, we have kept the details very honest to my man and myself, and as for the registry, it is so weird making a public wish list but I think we did a fairly decent job! Do I really expect a fancy kitchen aid mixer? No. Would I like one? Heck yeah! We are trying to figure out how to link an Amazon one to the wedding site... stay tuned. If you want to know how to find the wedding site you can either search our names on Zola or reach out and I'll send you the link. For real, tho, give the bride a break if you have a question that Google or someone else can answer. My older sister is SUPER ready to be my question screener, so please ask her things before you ask me.
And the thing is, we don't have half of the other moving parts that other people do! Our venue is handling food, drink, music, and entertainment! Our friends have flower and baking skills. My besties mom is amazing at making bows for the pews at the church! This is the most low-key, relaxed wedding I've been a part of and I still have wanted to throw my phone against the wall sometimes! It's a big event, but it's also a life event for me. I'm joining my life to someone else and trying to figure that out at the same time as trying to plan the event! And a move. It's a lot. So please be patient with me if I get snappy or emotional or just disappear for a weekend because I'm overwhelmed. I'm doing the best I can and I've got no real frame of reference or coping mechanisms to fall back on.
Ok, that's all the wedding talk. Except to say I had a make up trial that went great, so yay! My bestie came in this weekend for the Fall Out Boy concert, which was a blast. The drunk dude next to us told us that we are so "wholesome" cuz we made a quick little video of us singing along to "ironic" by Alanis between band sets. (We have agreed its just an "us" video.) Jimmy eat world was fun as an opener, and The Maine (from Phoenix) were fun, too. The next day we did the make up trial and then met up with J for food and ended up on a little bar crawl. Then she went to her hotel and we came home. Saturday j and I did some errands and hung out with the kitty. Then Sunday I met up with my bestie again before she headed home. It was a good weekend, and now I've got to actually start packing. LOL.
FOB!
We cute! And yes, that's the makeup day.
So yeah, things are proceeding. I'm getting some RSVPs back already, and have confirmed all the readings and prayers for the ceremony (it's not a full Mass, so less Catholic calisthenics for everyone). Much love to all, and please know we'd love to have you with us if we could!!! Hugs, MUAH! 😘😘
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