Learning more about myself

Some of you may know that my current relationship is the longest relationship I've ever been in. Before now, there was no reason for me to learn to really communicate or work with my partner to resolve conflicts. I developed a LOT of theories of relationships during my single years, and put some of that into practice when dating (being 100% honest, setting boundaries, speaking up when something bothered me, etc.). I don't think anything could have truly prepared me for reality. Marriage is truly eye opening. I've learned I had some preconceived ideas of how things would be, and then had to work through accepting how things actually are. Actually bringing up things that I see as being a problem is really hard because I have to figure out if it's truly a problem or if it's just not how I want things to be. You know? Like, the little things that I need to decide if they truly matter or if he just does things different than I do. Different doesn't mean bad! Lol. Letting go of some of my control freaky-ness has been... enlightening... and HARD! Thats part of what I mean when I say that marriage is weird. Going from solo existence to considering how my actions affect someone else in my home is quite a turn about. I definitely am learning a LOT about me (and hubby, of course). Turns out a lot of women do have a "thing" about clutter that men just... don't. It's interesting. I definitely have said grandma's line about "a place for everything and everything in its place." Except for the cat toys, of course. Their place is ALL OVER!! 

Work is... stressful. Changing to a new electronic health record system is a special kind of Hell and no one can convince me otherwise. So many things that aren't working right, and so many pointing fingers!! It's driving me INSANE!! JUST. MAKE. IT. WORK!!! That's the job!! To be clear, this rant is regarding the people who work for the new EHR system, not the people I work with. Every time I have to reach out to one person who works there, I SERIOUSLY wish I could drink at work. I feel like a shot before I talk to them would improve my morale. 

It's also back to the gym for me... your reluctant gym rat.

The face of "I better live to 100 and still be spry cuz this SUCKS." I took wed off because... OUCH and I had to get stuff for fri and also... a book was available from the library. 😁

Oh and my pepper plant has a 2nd pepper!! Do you see it? The tiny little guy!! I put them back outside when the cold snap ended. Hoping they get some good sun. Of course, on Sunday I'm going to have to bring them back inside. 

Friday night we had a friend over for... the great pumpkining! Hubbs is NOT a fan of pumpkins, so of COURSE we had to carve one, and paint one, and stuff. Thurs I made a cheese ball and dessert. A spice cake pumpkin trifel. Dinner on fri was a harvest sheet pan (apple, sweet potato, brussles sprouts, red onion, and chicken apple sausage with a maple mustard sauce), with the cheese ball, toasted baguette, and apple cider margaritas. 😁 it's fun to host sometimes. 

So healthy 

So NOT healthy 

Ok jack, time for your lobotomy 

Friend went to town! Not pictured is my own maniacal face when digging out the guts

Our friend cleaning up Jack. 

Our drunken pumpkin. We need to get some red cardbordaux. That way he can be my wine dispenser.

Or Halloween kitty had to check it out.

Hubbs made a apple cider margarita. SOO GOOD!!

Our art. I did the Frankenstein, L did the gourds. 😁 it was a good evening. 

Saturday was yoga, farmers market, lunch with the in-laws, and then ATREYU!!! 

Pregame at Westlake brewery

Obligatory selfie.

I love my hubby

Opening band: zero 9:36

Middle band : he is legend. Funny enough, hubbs knew some of their stuff.

ATREYU! Celebrating 20+1 years of The Curse

Hubbs even let his hair down. We each got 2 shirts 😁

Back after a short "see ya"

SUCH a great night.

Now, I generally start fading at 10pm on a normal day. I didn't actually start fading until 1130 about halfway home. The energy was AMAZING and let's just say my throat is appreciating the hot coffee this morning. Hubbs was giving me crap, "my wife can out rock ANYONE... until about 10pm." Hehe... it's cuz I'm FORCED to work at EARLY hours. My favorite hubbs-ism was on the way home. He was saying his legs hurt from standing for 4+ hours and then says this gem, "the soul is punk, but the body is middle management." So true, so tragic. He remembered seeing an old punk back in the day who was sore after a show and... hubbs has a LOT more sympathy for him now. Funny how age does things to you. We did not properly stretch before the show. 🤣 The pit was awesome, and hubbs commented that people were so nice cuz if someone fell the rest picked them up. I kinda looked at him sideways and said "that's how the pit is supposed to be." I guess other shows hes been to, that wasn't the case. 

Anyway, it was a good weekend. I'm going to see A for food and drink today since Friday nights/ weekends in general are pretty much booked from now until January. We are pretty stoked, tbh. Lots of funness planned. Jan also started getting filled up pretty quick, funny enough. This week is a short one for us, as we are headed north on Thurs to go see gma and gpa, and hopefully crunch some LEAVES!! There are some pretty trees around here, but they don't hold a candle to the ones in KS. I hope all of you are doing well, stay warm with the upcoming cold snap tonight (33F is the low today), and remember to stretch properly before standing, bouncing, jumping, and shoving people back into the pit for 4 hrs. 😁🤘🏻